EMPOWER YOUR SPOUSE FOR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP THAT WILL ALWAYS BRING JOY
Think back to one of your best teachers, coaches or mentors. They helped you become better. Without them would you have become better in that area of your life? I doubt it. They empowered you. I believe their memories will always be cherished, even at a flash. Is this the kind of spark that comes to memory as you look into the eyes of your wife/husband? Are they helping you become a better you or the worst you?
I really like the word EMPOWER. God has empowered us by his Holy Spirit, and the Spirit is working through us; making us better disciples of Christ. Because of that empowerment, we have also been commissioned to help others for better and glorious feature. As a Pastor it is my primary assignment to live an exemplary life of godliness and telling people the Gospel truth even when it does not favour them. At such moments it is really difficult but the Holy Spirit has always been there with me giving me the strength, wisdom and courage to do what is right for God’s glory. Equipping and inspiring others for God’s purpose brings me joy. It delights me to invest godliness in others and watch them succeed in life as designed by God. This is also same with relating with our spouses. What am trying to draw our attention upon here is that our spouses deserve the best of us at all times, even in difficult and helpless relationships. Yes! That's how God wants it.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
The choice depends on you! Yes!
We can help our spouses become better and in turn they pass on that energy to others. We can suck the life out of our spouse and become upset when our relationship withers. Another choice we can make is to let our spouse fend for him/herself and see what happens. If I was being torn down by Hannatu, my wife, I don't know how I’d be able to preach, equip and inspire others or be excited to see others succeed. I’d definitely be in survival mode relationally. Instead, she is always supportive, sacrificial and propelling me toward greater and a better me for God’s glory. Same, I make effort to do. We call each "MA’ YAWANAU" meaning my BELOVED ONE in our dialect; this we do with the mind to always keep us in our best of best for each other no matter what happens living as a couple.
Grace of our Lord be with us. Amen.
Rev. Isaac G. Y Bangalu Founder & CE Couples & Singles Network for Christ Initiative
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